Last week I posted Isaac's story. If you haven't read it already, I'll give you a quick summary.
My husband and I had our very first ultrasound for our first baby when I was about 10 weeks along. During the ultrasound the doctors found some serious complications and told us our child would most likely not survive until full-term and if he did, he would be stillborn or only live a very short time. Obviously, we were devastated.
So, because of the seriousness of Isaac's condition, the doctor presented abortion to us.
Both my husband and I are pro-life. We always have been and we always will be. We have very strong beliefs and convictions on the subject. That being said, I never, NEVER thought I would be in the position to have to make that choice, but when the doctor asked us for our answer, we had to give him one. We had to make a CHOICE.
To our doctor, it seemed, abortion was the logical choice. Why go through a pregnancy when the child would not live? Why put my body through all the changes and stress of child-bearing? Why would my husband and I choose the difficult and emotional path of caring for our child, knowing we couldn't keep him?
For Kaiwi and I, abortion was not a valid decision, and I feel it is important to emphasize WHY...
First, and most importantly, God gives life.
"Thou hast granted me life..." -Job 10:12a
"And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and man became a living soul" -Genesis 2:7
With Isaac, because of his condition, we had about six ultrasounds. Every time we saw him, we was moving. His heart was beating. His organs were functioning. There was no denying that he was alive. For us to decide to abort would be us deciding to kill our child.
All of the information that determines a baby's looks, gender, and intelligence is already written in his DNA at conception. By four weeks, the average time a woman finds out she is pregnant, her child has already developed his spinal cord, and his kidneys, liver, and digestive tract have begun to form. His heart is beating. Your baby is ALIVE at conception.
Also, God does not make mistakes.
"As for God, His way is perfect..." -Psalm 18:30
Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee..." -Jer 1:5
"I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works: and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which were in continuance fashioned, when as yet there were none of them." -Psalm 139:14-16
God is omniscient, which means all-knowing. God KNEW Isaac would not live. He KNEW the complications he would have. He KNEW it would be a difficult time for us. And yet... God thought Isaac was important enough to grant him life. Even for a short time.
So we said "NO" to abortion, because life is significant. Life matters. The duration of that life makes no difference. Is a child less important than a 100 yr old adult?
Kaiwi and I had prayed and longed for a child. God answered our prayers in Isaac. We knew Isaac's life would be short, but that would not have justified us taking that life from him. On the contrary, his short life demanded that we cherish every moment we had with him. We desired to care for and protect him while he was with us.
To abort would be to tell God that He had made a mistake- that because He didn't give us a child in the way we had expected, it would give us the right to throw away God's gift to us.
Indeed, Isaac is our gift.
Our time with him was incredibly difficult. To be carrying your child knowing that you won't ever get to see his first steps, hear his first words, change his first diaper- even just bring him home from the hospital- is heart-wrenching, in every sense of the word.
But just because God allows us to go through difficult times does NOT mean He doesn't love us. Because of Isaac, my relationship with God has grown deeper. He made His presence known to me so prominently during that time.
My relationship with my husband has grown deeper. Kaiwi never missed an appointment with me- not one. He even drove me to my glucose test and sat there and waited with me while I had to drink that disgusting orange drink. He was there for me every moment of the way. We watched Isaac at all our ultrasounds together, knowing the hard part was yet to come, and still feeling excited to see our child.
Even on the day we had to say goodbye to Isaac, though it was the most incredibly painful experience we have gone through, God blessed us with family beside us, and a peace in our hearts.
And we have hope. We KNOW we will see Isaac again.
So we said NO to abortion, because this life is short for all of us, and yet it matters.
Welcome! My name is Marie, and I have been married for 5 years now. We have one beautiful son, Isaac, waiting for us in Heaven and another son, Hayden, here with us! I hope to share with you more about our journey- where we have been and where we are going.